I haven’t written here since April!!!
Wish I had a better excuse, but here it is: every spare ounce of my mental capacity has been eaten by wedding planning. The moments I used to spend planning outfits, reading fashion zines, and taking photos have been replaced by bridal mutations: planning outfits for my bridesmaids, reading bridal magazines and blogs…you get the idea. I used to spend my hours on Pinterest browsing art, fashion, and interiors - these days it’s rehearsal dinner outfits, place settings, and wedding arches. Don’t get me wrong, it’s mostly an absolute blast!! But I was definitely not prepared for how all-encompassing it is 😂 I consider myself to be a pretty low-key bride (a bride-chilla, if you will…), and even though we’re foregoing a lot of the trimmings, pomp, and circumstance of traditional/big weddings, the number of details to nail down is absolutely bonkers. This is probably why rich people hire wedding planners….
Anyway, the big day is coming up fast!!! I wish it were tomorrow ❤️
We’re done with most of the big stuff, and we’ve barely begun on all the little stuff. In an effort to combat the overwhelm, I’m trying to carve out very specific time for wedding planning each week, and then not let myself get dragged into it during other hours. We’re also trying to make sure that we don’t spend every date just talking about the wedding. There have been shoot-up-out-of-bed-in-the-dead-of-night moments of panic when I realize I forgot to send an email or finalize a detail with a vendor, but generally my fears have been around letting the craziness of the planning/day pull me away from how beautiful & exciting it is to be marrying my partner. My reoccuring bridal nightmare is that I get to the wedding and I’ve forgotten to write my vows because I’ve been too busy with all the other wedding stuff. I understand where the nightmare comes from - I see, respect, and luuurrve the shit out of the part of my subconcious that is wise enough to remind me I have a tendency to get swept up in craziness. It’s just my inner soul nudging me to be present & stay connected to the real point of it all: I’m marrying the man I love. That’s what really matters. At the end of the day, all we really need is an officiant, each other, and a little champagne. The rest is frosting.
Anyway! I wanted to explain the absence. I’m just busy, but I promise I’ll be back soon.
I hadn’t planned on writing much about the wedding here - but would you guys want to know anything about what it’s been like? Or is the idea of wedding-related posts on SWIILPT making your eyes roll into the back of your head? Send me a note!